Shirley J. Davis
Integration is perhaps one of the most misunderstood parts of healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder. In Becoming I have attempted to dispel some of these misunderstandings by using my own lived experience with Dissociative Identity Disorder. Although I am not a professional this work is written in an easy to understand format so that it can be easily used by survivors and professionals alike.
An excerpt from this work:
He/she is a person who lives in peaceful cooperation with all of their parts. The alters listen, love and respect each other’s needs and wants, always striving to achieve what is good for all. They are self-aware and co-conscious of one another. They know of each other’s existence, and accept one another as being parts of the same person. There has been a mutual-agreement as to one leader, one personality, who is the “front man” who has the final say in all decisions.
I will break this definition down and try to explain using my experiences.
Living in peaceful cooperation with all of one’s parts sounds easy, but believe me is an art that must be learned. In the beginning the alters in a person’s system want to have autonomy, that is they crave having control over the body. They have their own interests, hobbies, relationships, belief systems, etc. creating chaos. It is important to understand that the natural response when one discovers they are a multiple is to deny these other parts and the memories they harbor, but to do so is to deny who we are. All people are a culmination of their memories and experiences. To deny our pasts is to deny what made us who we are. However, we ARE NOT our pasts, they are just part of who we are in totality.
The above book is available on a well-known website in both paperback and Kindle formats.