Authors: Shirley J. Davis and Jessica J. Baker
Authored by a person with lived experience with Dissociative Identity Disorder, The Tears Will Cease is written to help guide others living with the diagnosis to navigate the maze of confusing challenges experienced during recovery. The book is written in an easy to understand format so that anyone, whether a professional or not, can follow along. Included are thought provoking questions as well as the Author’s personal experiences.
An excerpt from this work:
The Memories Return
The phenomenon of being flooded by memories can be compared to vomiting as the things that have been forgotten are relived, via flashbacks, unbidden and without warning. Because these memories are so disturbing, it is important to learn and practice coping skills to mitigate their effects on the survivor’s life.
When I first began to recovery the memories of what happened to me as a child was overwhelmed with emotions and thoughts and physical sensations. I began to do research online to help me understand why I was remembering these things now (I was 30) and felt quite relieved when I learned that I wasn’t weird, but that my brain had reached a point of maturity.
Before long, I realized I could not handle the emotional turmoil I was experiencing, so I sought help. I found a great Therapist and we began my trip down the road less traveled.
My Therapist began to help me learn techniques and skills to calm myself down such as coloring, painting, and reading. She taught me that I needed to climb out of my trauma and take a vacation from myself.
What did you learn about how human brains function? Had you ever thought of your brain as being fundamentally different from others who have not experienced severe abuse as children?
Do you believe it is time (if you have not already) to seek the help of a Professional?
What kinds of things are you doing to help calm down and to take a vacation from yourself?
Stress hormones are a normal part of how the human brain handles danger; Stress hormones are responsible for getting our bodies ready for fight, flight or freeze; The brains of people who have been severely abused have been altered by these hormones.
I would wholeheartedly suggest that anyone who is reading this book and is recovering from severe trauma issues to seek the help of a competent Therapist.
• Writing in a journal or a short story
• Taking long walks outdoors
• Watching a funny movie
• There are any number of positive and uplifting things to do!